I'm Confused: Is This Love or Something Else?

Can someone explain what love really means?

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For example, I'm with a guy who is generally very nice to me. He ties my shoelaces, feeds me sometimes, and does many things that people would consider green flags. However, during intimate moments, there have been times when I didn't want to do certain things and clearly told him "no" multiple times.

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What happened was that he would keep trying for several minutes even after I said no. It felt like I was physically struggling to stop him. Eventually, he would stop, cuddle with me for a while, but then start trying again. This happened multiple times in the same situation. In the end, he gave up and we went out to eat together.

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I'm confused about what this means. If someone is caring and loving in other aspects of the relationship but repeatedly ignores your "no" during intimate moments, how should I understand that? What actually happened here?