child loss has made me an ass?

i lost my 5 month old daughter a year ago with a very traumatic end of life experience for her and us.

I have two other children and I understand life goes on. The same day that I put my baby into a box I had to feed my kids dinner and get them ready for bed without hesitation because that’s just what you do right?

Fast-forward to two weeks ago, my mother-in-law’s mom passed away. She was older and sick. It was still a bit traumatic, but expected. I’m struggling to give a crap about my mother-in-law struggles. She continues to text me and my husband what I consider very dramatic messages about her heart and she can’t keep her eyes open. She’s so tired everything’s heavy she feels like a robot, etc., etc..

I’m trying to be empathetic because of course losing your mom his heart, but I never texted anybody messages like that after my daughter and I find it ridiculous to be texting messages like that.

I’m afraid child loss has made me an asshole