Am I Heartless

When I started going through premenopausal I didn’t want sex anymore because it hurt to but I told husband that we could still hug and kiss and that line of intimacy but not groping or sex. The first time I kissed him after I said that he groped me I pulled away then he didn’t touch me or talk to me for a day then everytime I would go to kiss or hug him he would grope me so I said if he was going to do that then don’t touch me at all then he got mad then me and my Dad went to the state where I was born to visit and he told me that he wanted to move back there When we got back I told husband what he said and that Dad wanted us to move with him but Husband said no he wouldn’t move but I should because we live like roommates anyway so I said ok . Me and Dad started looking for places there then husband said why are you leaving instead of just giving him sex or let him grope me just give him what he wants and we can stay here I said no then he is wanting to buy the property from us but he want go to bank or anything to get loan so I signed him up for a loan but the turned him down because he wasn’t working then his daughter yesterday said I was not thinking about him just throwing him out and not helping him get property I told her about trying to help him but I can’t get lone for him I don’t have a job either he get social security now he going back to work part time and would be able to get loan but he has 7 kids and not one of them will help him get the loan and it was his idea for me to move am I heartless for no helping him get property