Passive aggressive coworkers [CAN-ON]
Dealing with a passive aggressive and patronizing coworker. He feels superior than everyone else since he is the only one with relevant experience to our jobs - the rest of the team has experience elsewhere but not in the current program. He even bad mouths the manager because he feels the manager doesn’t have experience to be telling her what to do - he says manager has bad calls and pinpoints it to the lack of exposure to this program. With me, I’m pretty open about the fact that this is all new - to which he said to me “maybe you shouldn’t be doing it then” - I ignored it, since I was new, but now I think it’s turning into a dynamic where he feels he can say this patronizing comments to me and while my effort is to remain professional, ignore and keep my head high since I am a team player and don’t want him to think it’s getting to me, hes taking advantage.
Last week there was an emergency that I perceived, which in the grand scheme of things wasn’t an emergency, but because I am new I reached out to after around 4:30 (our work ends at 4) to ask him to take a look, I described what it was, and she still chose to look at it and then told me after doing the task, next time carefully assess the the email and determine if it’s actually an emergency requiring contact with me after 4:30. Otherwise ask our manager if you need assistance determining if something is an emergency. I respect the boundary - sure - but the tone of that email? On top of the already patronizing comments felt unnecessarily aggressive. How do I deal with this type of personality ? Should I bring it up to manager ? I know he will
Posted Jun 15, 2026, 5:13 AM UTC