Yearning for connection

So, quick version of the back story, my boyfriend and I haven't been able to see each other much, more talk on the phone or text much, this has been over the course of over 6 months now, probably closer to a year, I have been trying to make an effort with him but unfortunately it never ends up working out due to our schedules or he cancels or something else comes up, almost every single time, to the point I get to see him maybe once a month. I'm lacking connection and my needs aren't being met and I'm talking about in every aspect. I don't feel loved by him anymore. However I don't know if I'm forcing myself to feel this way or if I actually don't feel it anymore. I have recently come in contact with another man (completely by accident - we work together) and we have this playful banter, and I'm starting to wonder if I'm forcing myself to feel this way about my current boyfriend because this man is showing me attention or if I'm actually falling out of love. I have tried talking to
My boyfriend and our conclusion is we will always try but now it seems like there's no trying anymore. Last night I dreamt of this guy from work. I dreamt that I was moving into a house and near the house they were having a singles speed dating thing and he ended up going. I wasn't participating but I was watching him the whole time , I didn't wanna see him with someone else, (in the building where this was being held was a huge glass window and I was there signing the paperwork for my home) and afterward I went up to a girl and asked her what she thought of the men, she immediately started gushing about this guy and I felt jealousy. Then he saw me and came up and I could see in his eyes he wanted to talk to me. He touched my hand, and we went to go talk, we talked and ended up in a field at sunset and I told him yep, this is exactly where I'm supposed to be.

So I guess I need advice. Am I forcing myself to feel this way about my current boyfriend because of the attention I'm getting from someone else, or am I actually feeling this way.

To me, it seems more deep rooted than I thought because I'm now dreaming about him