Some people defend avoidant attachment on social media

They say "They are like that for a reason" ...bruh I was having the worst time of my life when she ignores my texts , then they say "GET A LIFE LOL" , OK fine I did and ghosted her back , then why was she spamming my inbox ?

And she told me her past trauma and what happened to her parents etc etc. and she's like this coz of that and pushes people away she knows it's wrong but She has no clue how to work on it (Yes i believe her)

Then why are u back with your ex boyfriend??