Sometimes I feel I have too many wants/goals at once

26f here and my boyfriend 24m have been seeing each other since 2022! We had our first baby in 2025! So when I got pregnant we were renting out a basement through his sister, but moved into my mom’s closer I got to have our daughter. For help and familiarity ig. Specially for after my boyfriend went back to work 2weeks pp.

Well he’s been talking about proposing, I had a ring and place picked out but also been looking at apartments/houses for rent. The thing is I found a really nice, cheap house to rent from this local couple and I want to move in almost immediately before it’s taken. Around here it’s slim pickings for places to buy as every place is looking for old folks, students or single professionals. Not looking to rent out to people with kids. And most places are expensive to rent, even if it’s a one bedroom and one bathroom. Anyway… the dilemma is my boyfriend says I “want too much” because the ring I want is the price of what our down payment would be to hold our spot on the house. The courthouse is another $100-200. I said “the obvious choice would be the house so we could live on our own, right”. He didn’t say much but went on about how “we still got to eat” and “we still gotta buy stuff for the baby”, etc. all valid but I’m completely okay with postponing all the engagement stuff…

I do feel like I put a lot on his plate and wonder if he already bought the ring, or started planning to propose soon. But I obviously think the house is more important than getting engaged. Anyway I just feel conflicted and feel like I’m asking for too much🫠

Thanks for reading my rant❤️