"The divorce came out of nowhere". Anyone afraid this will be them? He (39m) won't talk about DB (13 months), works 70+hrs/wk, won't add me to the house deed, etc

He absolutely will NOT discuss db or anything else.

In his defense he DOES show me love in a lot of ways. writes me a little love note every morning, goes overboard for my birthday, we vacation together. I barely work because of chronic health problems and he never gives me a hard time about it.

He acts hurt then insulted if I talk about the problems. That he takes care of me and shows me enough love that I shouldn't question anything. maybe he's right but I dwell.