Am I wrong here?

I've been with my husband for almost 6 years, 2.5 married with a toddler.

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When we first met, he would only smoke weed very seldomly with friends. He knew how much smoking bothered me and just general weed use (just not my lifestyle). Fast forward to now, he relies on edibles multiple times a day and I found out he was smoking weed on his way into work in the mornings and staying late at side jobs to smoke weed with his coworkers. This bothers me. I understand that I cannot control him nor do I want to change who he is fundamentally.

Lately he has also been drinking excessively and twice now he has been physically violent (sprained my toe during an argument and pushed me off the deck during another).

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Situational domestic violence aside, I don't think I want to be with someone who makes weed such a priority in their life. Just personal preference here. I get very anxious about it.

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Has anyone experienced this? Am I wrong for being anxious about it? I don't want to throw away a good thing, but it doesn't feel good anymore...