Confused

I met a guy recently, and our first date went incredibly well. We had so much in common, the conversation flowed effortlessly, and the attraction was definitely there. We kissed at the end of the date, and it felt natural and mutual. He seemed genuinely keen — he even brought me flowers on the first date and arranged a second date quickly, which made me feel wanted and appreciated. My only reservation was that there were a few subtle things that felt a little camp to me — his voice, some of his interests, his music taste, even something about his walk. They weren’t obvious or glaring, just small things that triggered a worry in the back of my mind. I left the first date feeling happy, but the next morning I woke up with anxiety and started spiralling into what ifs.We kept texting and getting to know each other, and today we went on our second date. I realised I was scanning for any indication he might be gay. The thing is, this guy is perfect in every other way. I’m attracted to him, he’s affectionate, he kissed me passionately, held my hand, complimented me, and made me feel wanted. Yet I can’t shake this fear. I want to see him again but don't know if I am only setting myself up and him for disappointment.

Posted Jun 22, 2026, 5:57 PM UTC

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