31 [M4F] #San Jose, CA, #Online - Looking to Become a Service Based Sub for a Controlling Dom.

You wouldn’t know it if you saw me, but I enjoy being submissive. I'm a switch by nature and certainly had had my enjoyment of being a dom at times. But giving up control to someone you trust feels right to the person I am. I'm looking for a fellow switch partner who leans more to the dom energy to match my sub energy.

My ultimate goal is to be someone's servent. I find great pleasure in being someone who serves my partner in every little mundane task so she can focus on her goals. I envision weekends where I drive to your place and clean your home, cook you dinner, provide any service that you need. You in return could do whatever you want, to both me or your own time, as I'd be unable to refuse any order you give me. On the outside, I am a normal guy who you’d never guess is living the lifestyle. But when the door closes, I'd like take off the mask and we become our true sub for my queen.

Gentle Femdom is what I gravitate towards. I love a partner who likes to caress and take care of her sub. I take care of my mistress/goddess/partner because I will do whatever they tell me to do. But sometimes I fall short and a punisment is needed. Not out of a dark place, but in a "he won't learn to do it right unless I do this to him".

I envision a dynamic where things gradually change. A recently read a story of a Dominant man who was turned into a sub over the years because she had learned to tame him. That is what I hope to see as I hand control of my life slowly over to you. What I wear, plans we make, all these things will fall into your control while I take the more supportive role. I also would enjoy experiencing feminization of myself in private, where you slowly are introducing me to new ways to dress me up for your amusement (and our enjoyment). But this would only be in private, just for you.

I’m not sure I’m into the hardcore style of femdom, but I would also like to explore that with someone I've grown to trust. I like being blamed for things outside of my control, like things that inconvienced my queen are my responsibility to solve. and if she had a rough day, I would be there for whatever needed to be done to cure her anger. I have many more ideas I'd love to Explore. I just wanted to share a few to give an idea for what I'd be looking for.

Exploration is what is important to me at this stage in my life, I'd like to find someone who I can be open with and someone who is clear in what she wants.

Limits: Permanent damage, wax, extreme pain, piercings, humiliation in public.

Curious but not sure if I'm open to it: Cuckold, harsh spanking, multiple partners.

Things I wish to explore: Pegging, gentle jerking off, JOI, BDSM, facesitting, Praise, Punishment, Worship, Toys, feminization, dirty talk, Mommy/son, many more to list all here.

Connection is important beyond the kink. So I'd like to get to know you and see if we are compatible outside the bedroom first.

What is it that I offer:
-I found a new love for travelling and would like to meet someone who has the same travel bug. I mainly go to try the local dishes so I hope you have a good stomach and are passport ready!
-I am in the process of losing 20Ibs and building some more muscle. My goal is to by slender and toned in the coming months. I'd be interested in someone who could motivate me like I'm creating the body for her.
-I love bowling in my free time and like to go once a week. Bowling casually is much more preferable, but we will get competitive if that becomes the vibe.
-I'm independent when it comes to supporting myself and won't require anything from you. I'm currently looking for my future place to settle down. I have a personal goal to retire by age 40. While I probably won't at that age, I work towards building a financial support system for myself and future partner.
-I love all things board or video games and all things nerdy that goes with them. My dream is to have a partner that we can nerd out on all the fandoms we love. I may not have the self-confidence to cosplay in public, but I'd love to dress up as our favorite characters and enjoy a quiet evening watching the shows they belong to for the 5th time together. What fandoms do I enjoy the most? you'll have to chat to find out!
-And I love to cook. I love preparing meals for people and find a lot of joy cooking for others. When I find a dish in my travels I love, I try to research how to make it back home and give it a try. It usually takes a few failed attempts. But if you're willing to power through some of my bad attempts, I can promise some delicious food cooked special for you after a long day at work.

What I’m looking for:
-A switch dom-leaning partner, but if you are just a dom that is fine with me too. Someone who loves to be in control and the decision maker.
-Outside the dynamic, I'm attracted to sweet and innocent on the outside, but a bit of a pervert, crazy, and controlling on the inside. I go crazy when my person is so nice to everyone on the outside but will only be a bit sadistic and perverted to me.
-Nerdy as well so we can bond over common fandoms.
-Open to all locations in the world. I've spent some time travelling around asia and have met so many different cultures and foods I love. I want to meet someone who enjoys learning new cultures and wants to show me there own. As long as we are working towards eventually building someone closer togehter, distance doesn't matter to me.

Happy to share more if this post has caught your eye. I appreciate you taking the time to read. I hope to hear back from you :) I’m a private person so I don’t like to share much publicly on my profile. But I’m happy to show pictures after a little chat