Sex shouldnt feel pressurising

I realised that a lot of my fear around sex comes from never having experience and so only hearing about it from friends or seeing it in films.

I realised i have been too scared to say if i am in pain when trying, because it might 'ruin the mood' or im not sure if im supposed to say anything.

Ive been unsure what to do with my hands, wprried about what im supposed to do because ive heard guys complain that the girl doesnt do enough etc.

But truly, it shouldnt be pressure to be a certain way. Its between two people that love each other, and so be open, communicate and be honest. Its ok to ask to slow down or stop. Its ok to say if soemthing is uncomfortable.

I always had the idea that sex is this massive big thing that has to be a certain way. In movies they just seem to roll over and it slips in and then screaming all over the place. But its not always like that in real life, and thats ok.

If you arent with someone who respects your pace and doesnt listen when you communicate, then leave them.

Sex is different for everyone, and it doesnt have to look a certain way.