35 [M4f] #UK Dominant M for Sub F. RL TPE.

I'm looking for a female submissive who understands their desires and motivations, who understands that some of kinks take a depth of trust and understanding of the other and whom is willing to invest that time.

This means honest, raw, vulnerable communication - in both directions. That you're a person, and who has values, feelings, emotions and goals - to be supported and considered. If we can't be friends, we probably can't hold a dynamic between us.

It means understanding that the dominant is a whole person, and while they don't stop being dominant, they may occasionally need a snuggle, or a girl to kneel at their feet and rub their cheek on him. Alas, I'm not a kink dispenser. All the trust points above? They apply back in the other direction.

All of this is laid on a foundation of experience, learning and pragmatism. I know what hasn't worked for me. I've engaged in learning on the topic. This isn't a first-time wannabe dreamer.

My kinks? This is what you came here for? I have nearly two decades of experience, including most of these, but there's always more to do, or a different approach and depth. I do attend classes, workshops and events, but TPE is the big one - anything with a control element is likely to push my buttons. As a sadist, I enjoy impact play and causing pain - that doesn't mean I'm only interested in masochistic submissive. It can be very serving to engage in this play if it's not something you deeply enjoy directly. I appreciate that kind of service.

To pick a few others - anal, plugging, training & sex - the butt is fun, and I will not lie. All deeply enjoyable. Along with elements of humiliation play, rope work, orgasm denial. Pressure points are fun too - mostly as a method of control, but blending in pain. Conditioned and trained behaviour. Praise and punishment. Rules and rituals. Collaring.

Note I'm not into punishments that are funishment - if I'm correcting behaviour, I'm correcting it for real. I'm not playing weird mind games. A punishment isn't meant to be enjoyable. If you want a spanking - ask! I enjoy that. This doesn't mean no brats - but that there's a line between bratting playfully and not wanting to have a dynamic.

Probably shouldn't need to say this - but I'm not looking for a bedroom only dynamic. My life is setup in a way to support this. If yours isn't, and you're not willing to change, I'm probably not for you.