Would changing your appearance fix your life?

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I have suffered with BDD for over two years. It was particularly bad last year and I remember nothing more than wanting to look like this famous Russian model who died in 2008. I thought, how could someone who I perceived to be the most beautiful woman who has ever lived, kill herself? (I know this is problematic thinking). My depression has got so bad this year that even if a genie granted me a wish and made me look identical to her, would I be happy?

And the resounding answer is no. I would still hate myself just as much as I do now. Because not only are my issues truly stemming from the inside, they are also manifesting as physical insecurities. I would never be satisfied. What happens in 20 years when I am 30 and look older. I would still start to hate myself for aging. I don't know the answers or the cure, but I guarantee you, if you only focus on your appearance, you will feel very hollow and empty in your life and I don't want to feel like that anymore.

Posted Jun 23, 2026, 9:12 PM UTC

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