bf dumped me over my parents??

my bf came from a different state so he could get a job and we could start a life/future together.
during his job hunting (he was only here for like 8 days) my dad (i live with him right now) initially said he was fine with him staying but somewhere along the lines decided to flip completely and started being really mean to him, eventually kicking him out while I was out of the house working and told him if he ever sees him here again he will call the police.
my boyfriend already had like nowhere to go.
this was extremely hurtful and traumatizing no doubt to him but also to me. he stayed in a hotel for 4 days in town without me knowing until the 4th day he invited me to "talk it out" with him but essentially just spent the whole night giving me a long drawn out speech about how eventually there's going to come a day when he never talks to me again, he loves someone else, and i need to accept that.
the next morning i left without any affection or anything because like..? i mean he basically just told me i'm not the one so why would i do that? i went to work and he was calling me and sort of blowing up my phone a little angry like why didn't you wake me up?? (he got 1.5 hours of sleep I was trying to be nice.?) "did you even try to wake me up what the heck??" etc.
Then tells me he's on the bus to his homestate like 3,000 miles away. His Mom had already told me that so I said I know and then we had one conversation later where he was saying "I'll give you once chance to say something worth saying to me this is your one chance to get through to me." and so I kept telling him, I just wanted to make a plan with you, you don't have to cut me off, I care about you and I love you." and stuff... he was being really quiet and emotional and not really saying a lot but kept prompting me that way and eventually I was like Look I don't know what you want me to say?? I'm not a mind reader and honestly your emotional whiplash drives me insane and then he started getting mad at me!!!! and then he was like Ok. Last chance you better say something good. and he started saying he was going to hang up on me. So I said "I know you care about me." and then he said he was going to hang up and hung up.
He got to his home state the next day and called me talking about how he missed me so much but was way far away and thanked me for answering. Next he was drinking and then in the hospital.
And then we texted briefly but he was back on the "I'm never talking to you again" crap and it's been days and I haven't heard anything from him.
I'm really hurt. I'm not understanding basically anything that happened, I can't tell if any of it was ever real, or why he decided to run away like that instead of trying to make literally anything work with me.
I guess there were some key moments I probably could have done differently to help but I made bad decisions for our relationship based in an ignorance about my options and I thought I was trying to look out for our future financially at the time. But he just disappeared and I'm so broken. From the betrayal of my father too. my dad is 84 and so out of touch. me and my ex are 27F and 25M.
Should I keep trying to reach out? I text him and sometimes he answers but it's just to tell me not to bother pretty much. I hate how we're both feeling. I'm going to move out of my dad's house as soon as humanly possible now because this disrespect to my partner was so immense and so cruel that I genuinely can't even look at him without raging out completely and short circuiting/crying or I get so emotional that I literally throw up bile.
Ex is a cancer man and highly sensitive. he struggles w drinking and that's why my dad booted him. It wasn't fair- he was looking for a job and genuinely wanted to do right things, he relapsed once and got evicted from the only home we had.
I've had a hold on this used car and was trying to save money for that and him not having a job was costing me significantly and sort of setting me back on that goal so I was trying to conserve money and not buy him some things he was asking me to get him. Which he made me feel like was the reason he didn't feel cared about.
I just feel so guilty. I feel like he hates me but I didn't even do it. What do I do?