What are some things patriarchy normalised so much that you never even realised it?

- My mom is a working mother, so naturally she comes home and cooks/cleans/does the chores as well. (We hired help now but if they aren't there then the responsibility still falls on her)

- When my mum complained about my dad, my relatives from my dad's side told her to quit her job and put in more effort in her marriage 👍

- I need to go eat/cook for myself but my brother needs to be served cuz 'He wouldn't know what and how' (we're nly 2 n a 1/2 years apart and he's older)

- My dad used to tell me 'He raised me like a son' as a way of telling me I need to be strong

- A lot of my father's friends still use 'Do I look like I'm wearing bangles?' as an insult

Mind you I was raised to be a progressive independent woman who would never cave for anyone including my parents but everyone in my family have high levels of internalised misogyny it irks me to just talk to them

I'm fully trying to change these practices but it's taking a lot more effort that it makes me so damn frustrated to the point of tears. How is this shii even normalised!!?

Comment some practices in your home or society that makes no sense whatsoever because of patriarchy