Does Bi people or gay people find it tough to find the right connection and friendship if you are not feminine enough

For last many years I have been experiencing this disconnect where the people want to connect whole heartedly if I post something when I dressup feminine way and when it comes to dating when I go as regular self which is a male, suddenly the whole heartedness of opposite person changes to a totally different attitude.they suddenly become avoidant and running away type .

Just for a change I have created a profile in bumble with my regular male self stating that I am gender fluid to that till date I get very few interest or likes 😂..so that leaves me to a question does being feminine or being like a femboy is the only way to get more interaction and friendships from others?? .if that's the case it's a sad affair lol because everyone cannot become a femboy 😊.And more over I feel Trans people even if they have their life struggles are getting more acceptance than a cis gender gay male or cis gender bi sexual male. as a community just wanted to understand others opinion as well.. advance Thanks for letting me post