[20M] BF has been out all night and I [22F] am stressed and worried

(22F) feel really anxious right now, and I need outside perspective on whether I’m overthinking this or if my feelings are valid.

My boyfriend went out with 2 friends around 7-8 p.m. tonight. It’s now almost 4 AM, and I haven’t heard from him in over 6 hours. He works in the morning at like 8 AM so it’s also confusing to me why he would still be out this late without any update or something as simple as a text.

(BTW, we don't live together)

What’s stressing me out even more is that he didn’t communicate anything before or during the night. He never told me he’d be out this late, didn’t give any kind of update, and ignored my texts while he was with his friends. I only found out through silence that he was still out.

On top of this, communication between us has already felt a bit off lately. He’s been a lot more “dry” in conversations compared to how we used to talk, and I’ve been feeling a bit emotionally distant from him because of that. For example: im mainly upset lately cause it seems that when im with him, he answers calls and texts from friends, family, etc...

But when with friends or not around me, he doesnt seem to answer as quick to me specifically...So situations like this feel even more intense for me because it adds to the feeling that I’m not really being kept in the loop or

considered..or like im on the side for when he has nothing better to do.

It’s not even about him being out with friends it’s the lack of communication and consistency that’s making me feel uneasy. I feel like I don’t know what’s going on, and I’m left just waiting and overthinking.

I haven’t said anything heated to him. I've called like 5 times, sent texts that haven't been answered all night, even when he's been online... even messaged his friend, he said he'd be hanging with to also no answer. But now his activity shows "active 5 hrs ago", his phone battery shows its at 1% or dead on love8(we have locations for security and safety) and my messages are only saying "sent" and not delivered.

I’m feeling really anxious and honestly a bit hurt and confused about the lack of contact and effort to just let me know what’s going on.

Am I overreacting?

TLDR: bf has been out all night and i haven't heard any updates or even just a text from him since 7pm. Am I overreacting

Posted Jun 25, 2026, 6:53 AM UTC · locked

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