AITAH 29F for not hugging and kissing my boyfriend 33M after we go to live music?
I 29F have been dating my boyfriend Mike 33M for a couple of months and have never been happier until now. Back when we first started dating i asked him if he smoked tobacco and he said no.
However, last week when he was leaving my place one morning, i waited by the door to wave goodbye while he drove away. I dont think he saw me because he pulled out a cigarette and started smoking. I was confused, and later that day when he came back, i questioned him about it.
He said he doesnt smoke often, that his coworker gave him the pack and he had the one because he needed the help staying awake on his 2 hour commute to work (it was 5am and he works 12 hour days with a 2 hour commute each way). I understood because he had a long week and told him he didnt need to hide himself from me. Little did i know i was opening a can of worms.
On the weekend we attended a free festival that had live music and Mike smoked ciggarettes the entire time! I didnt mind the mild smell of one or two on him, but after that the scent on his breath and clothes was so strong and unbearable, i could be near him let alone hug and kiss him because it made me feel sick.
I talked to him about it later, and he said he only smokes at concerts because he is a rocker and thats what rockers do. He tried apologizing, kissing me and being intimate with me but i pulled away telling him i couldnt because the smell of 10 smokes on him was too much to handle. I politely asked him to shower or atleast change, brush his teeth, wash his hands or somthing first. But he said again he is a rocker, its who he is and he isnt a beta male simp.
I showered to get thwe second hamd smoke off of me and got into bed. He tried cuddling me again, but now all i can smell is the smoke and feel it clinging onto me now! All i want to do is shower again ! I dont know if i can handle this after every time we go to live music. We went to bands many time before and he never smoked then
AITA for not wanting to hug and kiss my boyfriend after live music because of his smoking ? Music is somthing we are both passionate about.
Posted Jun 25, 2026, 6:54 AM UTC