I’ve tried communicating but nothings happening.

I (20F) and my bf (20M) have been together for a year now. We’ve never had any major issues and whenever we were upset with each other we would just calmly talk and it would resolve itself within that one conversation.

Recently, I’ve been feeling like he doesn’t value me anymore or doesn’t even like me as a person. When I’m around at his rental, he won’t talk to me but would rather go and hang out with his roommates. Don’t get me wrong, I love them, and I hang out with them too, but he won’t hang out with me anymore. This has been happening for a while, but it’s gotten extra these past couple of days.

I asked him Monday night if we could hang out after work Tuesday, he says yes. Tuesday comes around I get off work at 1 and head to his place. As soon as I got there, he jumps on the game and didn’t get off until 5. When he finally got off he didn’t even speak to me, just got up and left the room to talk to his roommates. I talked to him about it, he claimed he forgot about our hang out, but he never forgets when it’s his boys? Regardless, he said he would try better. And I believed him.

The next day, I leave work early as I was in a lot of pain, I head to his and ask him to run a bath for me. He didn’t clean the bath before he ran it, and he only put hot water in it so I had to fix it as I was in serious pain. He then comes in, as I’m on the verge of tears and tells me he’s leaving and going to the gym. Once I get out of the bath and he comes back he asks if I need anything, I ask for a wheat pack. He grabs it, comes back in to grab his gaming console to bring it to the living room and completely forgot about the wheat pack. So I left. Because I’m not even really sure if that’s a valid reason to be upset ? But I am upset regardless. And if I’m going to have to take care of myself I would rather do it in my own home. So please let me know if I’m being dramatic, and if you don’t think I am I’d love some advice on what to do as I’ve already tried communicating more times than mentioned in this post.

Posted Jun 25, 2026, 6:56 AM UTC

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