Still think abt them

In a long term relationship, still think about them

Background: my partner and I have been dating for about 3+ years. My situationship and I ended a few weeks before we and my partner started dating. (Sounds bad I know, we were young, and I had been on and off again with both of them)

My situationship was a good person, he treated me with respect and was very nice even when he ended things with me, but alas it was a situationship so there was that overwhelming feelings of “we’re together…but we’re not”. He reached out knowing I was in a relationship 6 months after we ended (he was also in a relationship). That struck a cord with my partner, and they ended up arguing quite a bit over the phone which led to some not nice things said by both of them. We ran into eachother a few times, but nothing was said.

That was years ago, and I still find myself thinking about him every now and then. It’s not constant, but it’s enough that I feel the need to post here.

I feel like when we ended on good terms, I HAD that closure from him. But him reaching out and then all that drama going down took that closure from me. I’m scared I’ll never get him out of my mind if I don’t get that closure, but I can’t get that closure without sacrificing my current relationship.

TLDR; in a long term relationship, still think about my prior situationship because the closure I had was reopened, not sure what to feel/do