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I am forever grateful of the day, I remember it like it was yesterday. I knew something was off in our marriage and relationship and I felt it deep in my soul. It drove me crazy and made me feel uncertain and insecure. It wasn’t the lack of intimacy it was the lying and double life you lead on for years throughout our time together.

I trusted and believed in you like no one ever has done before. I showed you what true love was and stuck by you through it all. Even at your lowest point when I too was struggling I still put all my effort into you and our relationship. I thought if I loved you and showed you u conditional love it would show you to trust me and love me the way I deserved. However all it truly showed me was that you didn’t and never loved or respect me the way I deserved.

You lead a double life, you lied to me everyday kiss me, hold me and even for a short period financially support us. I truly thought I had found my best friend. However the level of betrayal, the lies, the secrets, the sneaking around were the most hurtful and detrimental thing anyone has ever done to me in my life. I trusted you not only as a husband but as my best friend and opened up and loved you deeply.

Finding out all your lies, double life…was truly shocking. The dating apps, Reddit, only fans, and AFF…all of the accounts to find or hook up w anyone else. All while denying your own wife everyday. You filmed me and took picture of me w out my consent, you talked to other women or strangers all for attention. The level of hurt after the amount of love and trust I continuously had for you was so shocking, I went into a deep depression.

You know why it’s easy to get over this long relationship after all these years? I can honestly say deep down I gave it my all and never gave up. I never had sex w anyone else in 15 years, I stayed true to you and myself and I did anything I could to help you. I have no regrets and the real reason it is easy to move on is bc I know you won’t change. You continue to lie to my face to this day hoping it would change my mind when I know the truth. It’s easy to move on when the person doesn’t want to change and you can’t live your life or relationship based off lies.

You don’t want to be honest bc you don’t want to change. You are mad bc you want the relationship you had lying to my face while doing whatever behind my back. You don’t actually want to change. You play a game “tell me what I did and I will be honest” that’s not change or how apologizes work. You don’t get to choose what you want to be accountable for while still lying to my face. I’m honestly happy and at peace. It confirmed I made the right choice and you will continue your behaviors. It took me 2 years after finding out to truly accept who you are and what this relationship was…to me it was love but for you it was it was abt control and manipulation. You never truly loved me. This is why it’s easy for me to move on.

I’m happy even tho I don’t understand why you would risk loosing someone for that stuff. However, it’s not mine to understand. I’m happy now that I found my answers, I don’t have to scour the internet, I don’t have to worry abt dating sites or what you are doing behind my back. It’s honestly freeing not to care anymore who u hook up with esp since u did it continuously throughout our relationship. You enjoyed knowing I didn’t know and no one in your personal life knows your double life you lead. It was a dopamine hit, a level or high like a drug, an addiction. I feel for you bc you honestly never felt that level of love from someone. You don’t know how to trust ppl or even accept it.

Knowing I helped you through everything and you were still able/wanting/willing to betray me…I knew whatever I do or did would never be enough for you. The fact that you enjoyed the temptation and never had any regard to me or my feelings was so selfish and painful to accept. You only ever cared about what happens or the choices made in life when it affects you.

I hope you find what you are looking for in life.
As for me, I have surrounded myself w family and friends. I am happy now and I am finally enjoying everything in life again.

This is the last you will hear from me. I am finally moving on and putting all my effort into myself again. Thankful for god and my d for answering my prayers and showing me the truth. Although it hurt, I needed and deserved the truth.

Goodbye