39F - Rochester/Upstate NY – Tired of the grind, looking for my people

I’m held together by willpower, caffeine, and the faint hope that somewhere out there are people who get it. Between a stressful job, the nonstop chaos of home life, the crushing reality of late-stage capitalism, and the overall heavy state of the world right now, most days just feel like a massive uphill climb.

I moved to the area last summer, and finding genuine, consistent connections has been a struggle. I’m looking for a local friend to navigate the daily grind with, someone to text throughout the day, vent about life to, and actually build a mutual, supportive bond with. If you are also feeling the weight of everything and want a consistent online connection to lean on, I’d love to connect.

Because of a lot of my life history and dealing with high anxiety, I prefer to take things slow. I like to chat online for several months before meeting up in person. If you're further away, you must be content with keeping our friendship strictly online. True trust takes time, and I need someone who sees the value in investing that time.

**A Bit About Me:**

I’m 39, married to a trans woman (44), and a mom of three. I live with anxiety and depression. When I actually get a free second between work and kids, you can usually find me hiking, watching YouTube, or creating content (mostly photography, nature, conservation, and politics). 420 friendly. There’s more info on my profile if you want to dig deeper.

**What I’m Hoping to Find:**

Age: Local people between 34 and 46.

Location: Ideally within 40 minutes of Rochester (14625). I’m open to chatting with people further out in the Northeast, but please know that will stay strictly online.

Vibe: Liberal and non-religious (atheist/agnostic).

The Big One: Consistency. I need someone who genuinely enjoys texting throughout the day and doesn't treat conversation like a transactional scorecard. I will open up as I get comfortable, but it requires patience and steady communication. Inconsistency is an immediate dealbreaker for me.

Let’s keep it low-pressure and just start with texting. If you read all of this and want to chat, shoot me a PM with these four exact details so I know you're on the same page:

1. Age.

2. Gender.

3. Location.

4. Who you voted for in 2024.

(I’ll only be replying to messages that include all four!)