Is this considered narcissistic abuse?

Hello Everyone, I recently had broken up with my girlfriend of almost two years and have been struggling accepting it and moving on. Our first year was awesome with some red flags possibly being missed like throwing tantrums if we didn’t have sex, hitting her head, getting mad at me if I went over my parents every Sunday, etc. the first year was things of that nature that I dismissed due to days or weeks without having moments until we moved in together and the arguments or insecurities she would have turned into her getting so mad at whatever it was to throw a remote and break a tv, throw drinks at the wall, threaten to kill herself etc. I think the hard part is looking at the What if’s and the good moments to keep looking back where she said it won’t ever happen again or that things would change. I really thought she was my person and she did really sweet things but it also seemed like she had BPD and never told me or was undiagnosed with her ADHD. She even blamed her not taking or switching medication for her throwing things or touching me inappropriately like touching me in the neck, blocking me from leaving and grabbing my items. I just also have never been in a DV situation and it started crossing boundaries but would just end up with us crying and making up then the same cycle happening when she gets in a “mood” or something triggers her. She would even say the way I’m talking to the way I look would make her feel even more enraged like I don’t get it, even when we did argue I always stayed composed and never let myself get too elevated.