Being told you're the "best partner" and simultaneously "not enough" at the same time.

I am still trying to understand a relationship i ended earlier this year, i had the strength to leave at the second time of asking. I am curious as to whether anyone else has experienced similar. I strongly suspect cluster b mix of BPD and narcissism. My therapist confirmed she was abusive even as i tried to minimise her behaviour.

I was repeatedly told:

- You are the best partner ive ever had

- This is the safest she had ever felt

- Its the healthiest relationship she had ever had.

- The love of her life

- The best sex of her life

- The person she wanted to marry and have children with.

I experienced a bizarre contradiction of being idealised and devalued.

After one too many put downs i was so confused which version of me she saw as real and a brutal character assassination was the nail in the coffin. It really attacked my core wounds.