Abusive relationship

I feel like I’m only realising now that my boyfriend has been abusing me throughout our relationship sorry for the long read I need to get my point across properly pls help why is he I like this?

Hi all my BF 23M and I 22F have been together over 4 years now. I have put aside red flags from the start and only after coming back from this holiday I may have been emotionally abused throughout the relationship. We met in school and 2 years ago he moved an hour away for college so we only see each other maybe 2/3 a week if even. Recently we just went on a holiday together this is probably our 5th holiday. Anyways I was anticipating some stuff but did not expect to come home from a holiday thinking maybe this is actually emotional abuse all along. Firstly it started with me buying him underwear and socks in the shop the morning of as he forgot to wash some. I put them into a plastic bag and left them in the backseat of the car beside his suitcase, we then landed in Greece and he realised the bag was left in the car and of course this was all my fault because I never reminded him. I feel the need to go into detail just to get my point across here. He complained so many times during the holiday that keep in mind I had organised down to the clothes he wore , restaurants,activities , car rental etc) he hated the hotel, the car wasn’t good enough and the food was awful all according to him. One morning we went down for breakfast and he couldn’t find the cutlery tray and instead of asking a member of staff for a spoon he sat there and gave out to me saying this is some shit hotel why did u book this? on our last day he said he was hungry for lunch but I wasn’t so I agreed to come and get a coffee or something ( I always have to pick where we eat) anyways I told him to pick where he wants to eat because I wasn’t going to be eating instead he drove the rental car around in a temper and told me he wasn’t gonna bother eating till I picked somewhere. In the end I just picked a random place to get out of the situation and he ended up hating the food from there too (surprise surprise) I noticed so many little things throughout the whole holiday such as me walking on the road if the footpath was full and him shouting at me to get off the road , sighing and sulking when I would go into shops , telling me not to buy things especially if there was a queue in the shop. We would go for dinner and then to a bar after for drinks and he would sit at the bar and watch TikTok instead of speaking to me. My bank card actually got stollen out there so I had no money so he had to pay and I noticed if I bought a bottle of water he would finish it without me looking and then I was left with no water and no money to buy more. He shouted at me on the beach because I never reminded him to bring the bag with the towels to go for a swim bare in mind it was 35 degrees Celsius and you’d actually dry naturally in about 5 mins. I cannot believe after so long together that what is happening is probably not actually small arguments and disagreements it’s more of a controlling abuser. I have a good few friends that I have went on a lot more holidays with and never had an argument with them. He never remembers anything I say to him for example I brought a Polaroid camera on holidays with us and told me at the airport not to open the back of it once the film goes into it , fast forward to 3 days into the holiday while I was in the shower he opened up the back of the camera and only for me noticing the film counter had changed I looked up to him laughing. He also always tells me I’m way too serious and everything he says is a joke. I actually said all u did this holiday was complain his response was “ u get rage baited so easily” . Another incident that actually nearly made me sick was when we were going into Lidl for shopping there was a Greek homeless woman begging and speaking to us in Greek and he shouted in her face “what are u saying woman” to be honest I knew the relationship wasn’t great but I am shocked at how much my eyes have opened in this relationship. His family adore me and spoil me he is also great to my parents i honestly feel so stuck on what to do. Before anyone suggests breaking up I have not said anything about this to him so breaking up without speaking about how I feel wouldn’t be fair in my eyes no matter the situation. Any advice would be appreciated