sometimes a tantrum looks like it's about something small on the surface, but later it turns out that wasn't really the issue at all, a child gets upset over a toy, a snack, or being told no, but the real cause might have been exhaustion, overstimulation, frustration, or something that happened earlier in the day.

i'm curious how often other parents have looked back at a situation and realized the tantrum wasn't actually about what it seemed to be about at the time.

i found this article helpful because it explains why a tantrum is often about something much bigger than the trigger