If you feel like you come off as too intense/too much for lots of people, always do 25% less of what you wanted to when it comes to these social situations

So I realized about myself that I am often a bit too much for lots of people. For example when it is only small talk I will get into a deep convo and keep the convo going even if the other person doesn't even feel like it: and I only realize it when they already have that annoyed look on their face. Or sometimes I am just a bit "too friendly" when a bit more medium would be appropriate. So now in these situations before I say anything I tell myself to do 25% less and just try to for example leave out that other question I was also gonna ask, not initiate the convo etc. And i realized people feel more calm in my presence and start more convos out of their own initiative.