"Because I'm old...."

My 87 year old covert narc mother has always made everything about her and as she has aged she has found the ultimate reason for things to be about her: she's old.

We should plan our lives around her, because: she can go at any time. I've mentioned the flaw in this argument i.e. that anyone can go at any time and that only difference with dying when you are old is that you are probably going to die of old people things. But "I may not be around very long" is something we can all say.

She rejects that argument lol.

I have two adult children in their 30s. They have full busy lives. One does not live in the city; she has to take a flight to visit. The other lives in the city but he's young, he works full time and he has a social life. So we might see him once a month.

My oldest is flying in to visit for a few weeks. My mother asks me in a sort of annoyed way: "So, are we going to see [my son] at all?" I answered that we will but not this week, with World Cup and Pride Week there's alot of cool stuff going on in the city. He's living his life.

My mother's response to this: "Its just that I want to see my grandkids together around me; because I'm old."

Uh. Ok? I replied that my kids are young and they have full lives. She did a "Hmmm" thing and stopped insisting.