Am I Overreacting For Throwing Away A Pan My Step Son Won’t Clean?

I (40M) am getting tired of having to cleanup after my stepson (20M). The last few years he has become lazy and absolutely barely cleans up after himself in the main areas of our house. His room has dust over things, and never puts anything back in the kitchen. An example is that if someone is home and there are clean dishes in the washer, then they should be put away. If you use a common use item then it should be cleaned for another person to use it.

My stepson has used this same pan for the last 3 years to make his breakfast. The problem is that once he’s done he just leaves it there all day. There’s been times there have been flies because he leaves the caked on food on it all day. It doesn’t matter if he has work that day or has the day off. He just leaves it messy and both my wife and I have told him to clean it. The other issue is that we don’t have many pans to use and I’d rather have something cleaned after finished eating so someone else can use it later.

Finally I’ve had it and threw it away. He had a massive fit about it saying it was unfair. This has been going on everyday for the last few years and honestly don’t know if any other way to get to him it’s not okay to leave messes around. Hes 20 years old and is acting like he’s 10.