I [25F] wants some advice about my relationship with my gf [26F], we are recently longdistance after living together for 3 years

So i [25f] is a person who is very okay to be alone, i like alot of alone time, thats how i recharge and i also enjoy just being at home at the same time as my gf without us rly interacting (like sitting close to one another or watching tv together or doing something together) but doing our separate things. I like to play videogames and do crafts and read and I like to do them by myself as well as together with her. I really enjoy staying up late and playing games or reading cuz it makes me happy and helps me recharge. im a very patient person.

She [26f] is a person who has an anxious attachment style, she is very anxious and prefers to do hobbies and stuff together. she feels like we’re drifting apart or that i dont want to spend time with her if i do things shes not included in. she has alot of love and i know she is activly going to therapy about her issues, but they are still there. shes also a person who likes alot pf physically touch, likes close proximity and wants to go to bed together almost every night together. she is a perosn that can go from 0-100 when shes upset.

We met when i moved abroad for school and we became close roommates who after 3 months got together and i moved in to her bedroom and then 8 months later when the apartment contract was over, whe moved to another apartment just us. we lived there for like 2,5 years maybe and now i have moved back home again. We were eachothers first relationship as well.

During my studies abroad i made three friends which i didnt hang out with alot while she made 0, which is somethig she struggles with in genteral, compared to me.

Our previous schedule in the last year living together, was that she was not home from 6am to 7pm every (except weekends) cuz she worked, while i was home all day since i finished my classes and was just working on final projects.

Our routine became that i would study or watch tv during the day and clean (im a night person and i enjoy doing things in the evening) and then when she came home we would eat dinner and the do somthing together, like play videogames or watch tv all evening until we went to bed together, even tho i just looked at my phone/read for 3 more hours in bed since i sleep much later. And then we would hang out during the weekends and do stuff.

My issue with this schedual was that from 7pm to 11pm i would just hang out with her and then i would stay in bed until i got tired. whenever i tried to say that i would like to stay up by myself or that i wanted to do something else during the evening that would end up with her feeling like i don’t want her company or i dont like her or we’re not compatible. i got my ”wishes” maybe once a month since i didn’t want to upset her but at the same time i lacked the freedom of choosing how to spend my evening but then if i don’t choose her it becomes as if i dont like her, which i do. I would ask her if we could do different things during the evening but then still go to bed together but then she would feel like we have limited time to spend together why do i choose to not spend it with her and i would say thats not how i mean i just like having closeness from company under the same roof not the same room, which we lacked. her only exception for her to not get upset i wasn’t hanging out with her in the evening would be that i needed to study, then i could stay up without her with no issue, as well as i played dnd online for 3 months 1 evning every two weeks and that i could do.

Our schedual now, i live at home with my dad and she lives by herself. im not home from 5am to 4pm cuz work while she is not home from 7am-18pm because work. i go to bed at 9pm since i wake up so early, i also take a nap after work to recharge a little. when she comes home from work we call on facetime and hang out until we go to bed, we usually talk, she makes dinner (i eat earlier) we play or watch something or bicker, we bicker about alot of things, small simple things, usually because we’re both tired and i try to not start something but she usually reacts wrongly to somthing i say and then its just bickering until shes upset or somtimes me and then we say stop and we stop and go to bed while the call is still on.

my issue, is i feel like i dont have any freetime, i dont have time to be by myself (esp since i live at home) and my entire time after work is still just dedicated to hanging out with her. rn im obsessed with a book series so we call and talk and then before bed i read and then she hangs up when i have fallen asleep.

her biggest worries of me moving back home was that i was gonna forget her and that i would have to many people to hang out with while she remains at 0. i am a very social person in the sense i like to go out to do stuff during the day and then i like to come back home and be by myself. if i have been busy she gets sad that we call so late or feel like we are drifiting apart. she wants us to have more quality time and have online dates while i feel like we call all the time and i want more time for myself. i understand the necessity of doing more dedicate date time every other week since its good to just sit and do something together but at the same time i feel exhausted. i have been back home for 1 month so far.

every time we fight she always gets worried that we’re braking up, i reassure her, she feels like shes too much, i reassure her, she feels like we’re drifting apart and then now that she feels like im distant. maybe i am? im just very tired and im struggling to be nice and social when i just wanna be alone in the quiet.

i just want some overall advise, idk how to move forward since i feel myself pushing away cuz im dead tired and the idea of calling and star bickering (happends 3/5 calls) when i dont have the energy for it just makes me not want to.

note: im ofc allowing her to go to therapy and work on her issues in her own time and she is really trying and im also being patient. i do love her and miss her but not in the same amout that she misses me, im just not that type of person. shes coming to visit me in august.

TLDR; shes anxious because she feels like we’re drifitng apart while i feel like i want more alone time while out comunication form now is facetiming every day. we have lived apart for 1 month.