Is it acceptable under the circumstances of losing everything for my husband to be drinking heavily and partying away from home.

My husband has a history of drinking/partying hard. He was sober when we met and honestly this was a huge pro for me because I don’t drink at all. There have been a few short lived, minor relapses over the course of our relationship but he’s always pulled himself together very quickly.

This past year has been very hard, my husband took a job where he was promised alot and none of those promises came to fruition. We put ourselves in a compromising situation financially to make this job work, expecting that it would soon pay off. It didn’t and now we are left in a hole.

My husband is resigning next week and has been dreading it. He has another job lined up but not a great one. From his perspective, his world is falling apart. I have been very sympathetic of this and understanding of his descent into alcohol and partying again but I am very concerned.

We’ve come to an agreement that for the time being, he can go out on a Friday to get the week out of his system and to cope with our circumstances but he drinks himself to absolute smithereens, only comes home when the sun is up the following day and it then down and out the rest of the weekend.

I get that our situation is bad and it’s been mentally very difficult for the both of us, but at what point am I enabling a behaviour that’s doing a lot of harm.

We have spoken about how it affects me and how worried it makes me and he assures me that it’s just how he’s dealing with the situation and it will get better once things get better with our finances/life etc.

We have a six month old baby as well and so I am basically alone with him on the weekends then.