Type Me! Leaning ST ("Pragmatist" club), but unsure where to go next
This post is sorted into 3 sections: Facts About Me (personality, habits, and the like), Some of My Beliefs (subjective opinions), and Random Stuff (any other info that's not exactly typology related).
I bolded the most important parts of each point for easier reading.
Be aware that this is an assortment of information I found relevant to my typing, but, as suggested in the title, I've already zeroed in on 2 dichotomies, so it's possible that I'm missing information that could help clarify my type. As such, feel free to prod wherever necessary.
Facts About Me
- I am very independent, sometimes to a fault. I often insist on doing things "my way," even if alternative methods could be more efficient or socially acceptable. I do welcome criticism and feedback to help me improve, but my usage of that feedback depends on whether it is valuable to me for achieving my immediate and long-term goals, not the abstract goals of, say, the place where I work, or the people I work with.
- I like challenges, but the best challenges are the ones I impose upon myself. Now I'm not one to road race with a stranger at a traffic light, and I will not needlessly exert my energy, time, or resources, but if there's a challenge that seems feasible, worthwhile, and winnable, I won't shy away from it. That could mean upping the reps in my workout, setting a new diet, trying out a longer and steeper trail, or challenging someone else for a position (especially of leadership).
- That said, I am not solely career- or status- driven. Ultimately, I want to ascend the ladder and gain more perks for myself, yes, but I also place a lot of value on spending quality time with the people I care about, and in raising my (future) children. If push came to shove, I would rather have many kids whom I can teach and elevate, and have to move to a lower cost of living area, than have no kids, but make significantly more money and attain much more status.
- I have no issue confronting authorities, albeit with tact. Especially during my college years, I found that professors liked to be challenged and would confide in me that students just keeping their heads down and taking notes unquestioningly got boring after some time. For obvious reasons, the corporate world is different, but as long as I stick to the facts and keep my tone polite, few supervisors have reacted negatively to my suggestions and criticisms.
- I like to be the center of action, not the center of attention, but unfortunately there is a big overlap between these two, at least in my culture (the US). That is to say, I like to initiate, alter course, and tidy up projects, initiatives, and activities, but I don't seek to be in "the spotlight." I can and do manage that position, but I wouldn't call myself a good "hype man." I'm more the sort who likes to deliver solid results, and maybe crack one well-timed joke to keep my audience awake.
- People, even strangers, tend to turn to/trust in me. From group projects in school, to work projects, to random people lost on train platforms and at bus stops, people gravitate toward me for leadership and guidance. I honestly haven't been able to pinpoint why this pattern emerged, as I am neither physically imposing nor all that "authoritative" looking, but I've come to roll with it.
- When I was a kid/teenager, I either had a "flat affect" or came across as angry when speaking, even if the content was interesting and enjoyable to me personally. Even now that I've adopted a more "natural" intonation, I do tend to sound more urgent than excited when I get passionate about things.
- In the colloquial sense, I am an introvert, though I am well aware that in socionics land, one's TIM can end in "E" and the individual can still be an introvert. In childhood, my introversion was much more stringent than it is now; I have an easier time socializing and making new friends compared to before.
- On that note, my best friends are those who are flexible, relaxed, insightful, push back on me sufficiently, and who respect my time and efforts. We can still have very different life philosophies and political stances. I tend to be the loudest, most directed, and most brash person in my friend groups, and I prefer it that way. I also tend to decide the agenda, the destination, and the conversational pace. However, I do not seek to be domineering or to "hold others on a leash," so to speak. I am happy to redirect my energy in the direction that the group prefers, even if it somewhat contradicts my own inclinations. Conversations among friends generally circle around politics, personal projects (both creative and work-related), and crude humor.
- I don't click with people who expect me to intuitively "read" intentions and emotions. Some of my worst interactions have been with people who, out of the blue, insisted that I had somehow offended or misunderstood them. In those cases, regardless of whether I believed they were right or wrong, I was totally blindsided by the news. I appreciate people who straight up tell me that something I said/did was upsetting or insensitive, but not when it's accusatory with a predetermined guilty verdict, as opposed to probing for my side of the story.
- Additionally, I do not like people who refuse to help themselves. I do not want to be one who "picks up another's pieces," so to speak. Nor do I like people who expect to be able to get out more than they put into their relationship with me. That doesn't mean that my relationships must be 100% 50/50 on effort, as that's impossible to quantify; instead, they must be proportional. I don't expect friend A, working 80-hour weeks, to spend as much time with me as friend B, working 30-hour weeks, for example, but since friend A earns more than I do, I do think it's fair for friend A to spend more on me than I spend on them, on average.
- When offering advice to others, especially of the emotional variety, I refuse to just say "it'll be okay" without a good reason to believe it will be. I err on the side of caution and so generally avoid saying that line all together, as I can never know exactly how things will turn out. Regardless, I focus on what elements of the situation are within that person's control vs. not, as well as what tangible steps they can take to improve their situation. I congratulate people on thinking seriously and effortfully on problem-solving, and know that sometimes, they don't need advice, just my presence and listening ear.
- It is very easy for me to cut people out of my life. Some might even say that I jump the gun on doing this, but if someone isn't measuring up, I can either hard cut them out (tell them directly, face-to-face, or over the phone that I don't plan to be in contact with them anymore), usually if the person has wronged me or someone close to me, or soft cut them out (gradually stop responding to texts, invitations, etc), if there are no hard feelings, but the person is just not adding anything substantial to my life.
- I'm not all that interested in people as individuals. Sure, I believe everyone has the right to food, water, shelter, and paths to self-actualization, but unless you're exceptionally close to me, I'm not interested in hearing what XYZ neighbor/coworker/family member said or did yesterday. Now if XYZ neighbor/coworker/family member's house burned down, that's a different story, but I'm talking about daily events, not crazy, life-changing stuff.
- Art is an important outlet for me. I create many characters, stories, and worlds, and while I would agree that they are canvases for my imagination, I would still offer the caveat that "my imagination" is quite bounded by reality. Many of my worlds are deliberate remixes of Earth, with a few variables tweaked (e.g., "what if humans only had one sex?"). My fictional works are a place where I can run wild asking questions like "what kind of world would produce X kind of society/person/religion?" and I find it much easier to mess with the cause-and-effect interplay of biomes, geography, nation states, and the laws of material reality; writing longer, character- and personality-driven arcs, though fun, is more tedious. On a related note, I am virtually allergic to creating magic systems, as I have tried and failed many times, simply turning them into "extended laws of physics."
- In terms of literature, I much prefer to read nonfiction over fiction, even though I prefer to create fiction over nonfiction. Much of my nonfiction reading/information consumption gets filtered into my fiction, however.
- My general interests include modern-day and historical geopolitics, anthropology and archaeology (particularly world cultures/religions and their evolution), biology, geology and geography, astronomy, astrology, linguistics, and personality typology (obviously). Sometimes I watch more abstract stuff, like from Solar Sands or Curious Archive, but I'd say I more "stumble into" those videos as opposed to consistently seeking them out.
Some of My Beliefs
- Aside from covering the basics of daily living and my family's wellbeing**, if I had infinite money, I would use it to raise awareness for issues I am personally concerned in, lobby for policy-based solutions to those issues, and fund think tanks/nonprofits/companies/individuals actively working on the issues.** Only after that would I worry about "upgrading" my life.
- Many issues are much less nuanced than people make them out to be. Or more accurately, they are nuanced, just not in the ways people think. Example: The solution to the housing shortage and rising cost of housing is, more often than not, literally just to build more housing. The nuance comes in with what kinds of housing we should build; e.g., duplexes/multiplexes or skyscrapers? What's needed and feasible in which locales? etc.
- Politicians should not represent "the average person" from XYZ city/state/country. I believe they should be exemplary, and while what that means for each city/state/country may differ, in general, nations must have general standards for their elected officials. If I had to paint a broad picture of my "ideal" candidate, this would be someone with a strong vision for where they imagine their city/state/country in 100 years, someone who is charismatic and impassioned, and someone who is willing to act decisively to make the reforms and changes necessary to achieve this vision, including if these actions go against general orthodoxy and the Overton window. As long as this candidate is willing to listen to experts, policymakers, and the general public, I don't particularly care if they are themselves an "expert" at all.
- While peace and prosperity are great gifts, they should not be taken for granted, as sadly, they are also conditions that make societies prone to complacency. Today, it is incredibly easy to forget that kinetic power and risk were, and are still needed to defend institutions like democracy and pluralism, which are very precarious and, historically speaking, anomalous.
- Good material conditions are not sufficient to sustain a society of scale. People also need to buy into a "national myth" or founding narrative about the reason they choose to live among the people they do, whether it be based around a set of cultural values, a constitution, a religious doctrine, a historical claim to a particular territory, or some combination of these and more.
- Any civilized society of scale will have some level of stratification, but it is the responsibility of "the strong" (those with more) to ensure that "the weak" (those with less) have enough. Not to eliminate social stratification, as in the long term, this configuration becomes unstable, but to ensure that the basic needs of all (e.g., access to clean water, good food, housing, education) are met.
- Most citizens do not know what is best for themselves, nor their society at large, down to the smallest detail. However, this is not a sufficient reason to discard the democratic process, as a small concentration of "central planners" is even less in-touch with the needs of an entire population, than those people, through their aggregated votes, are.
Random Stuff
Talanov would have a field day with these.
- I exercise daily, but casually. I train partially for the benefit of being stronger and slightly bulkier, but also partially because it's just a habit and it feels nice.
- I love meat and dairy, like vegetables, tolerate fruits, and dislike carbohydrates.
- I avoid using generative AI for things other than preliminary research/idea gathering and generation, and would never use it to create a finished product. Likewise, I try to do simple, daily arithmetic mentally, and only use a calculator to verify my answers.
- My favorite genres of music are metal (especially power and symphonic), rock, folk (from all kinds of cultures), and national/wartime songs.
- I admit it. I like slapstick humor.
- My favorite color in childhood was orange, and in adolescence, it was blue. Now I'm gravitating more toward deep red, but I'd say I'm agnostic to "favorite" colors. I do shy away from yellows, pinks, and pastels, though.
- I don't know my MBTI type and, after learning about socionics, I am no longer interested in finding out my MBTI.
- My enneagram is 8w something, but who cares about wings, right?
- I'm a woman, which maybe I should've said sooner, but oh well. At the end it goes.
Thanks in advance!
Posted Jun 27, 2026, 10:18 AM UTC
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