AITAH bc I feel hurt I was uninvited to my boyfriends friends birthday

Okay my boyfriend’s friend I have known for 2 years and hung out many times even alone after my boyfriend left for work. He calls to tell my boyfriend he wants a boys night for his birthday. I text his wife also someone I consider a friend and say he pls keep me updated so I can better make sure Byron can be there both our partners are bad about planning and communicating. She says she not gonna be there. I’m liek okay that makes me feel even better about not being invited since I’m like okay his wife’s not gonna be there I see why maybe he wanted a boys thing so his wife didn’t feel left out. Then he is talking to my bf otp when he says all who’s coming. My bf his wife’s coworker he met like a month or two ago and some girl. My bf goes I thought it was a girl night. He says she one of the guys. My bf says well I’m inviting her to come after the float on the river since it’s literally Fourth of July when he wants to do this. I tell my bf in the moment this is upsetting and rude. After stewing about it for a couple hours. I start crying I tell my bf this really hurts my feelings that I am specifically uninvited he says well i shouldn’t take it like that. But I mean I’m literally only invited to half out of obligation that you were like oh I don’t want to spend a whole holiday without my girlfriend. His wife’s coworkers who he’s barely know 2 months is cool enough to invite but not me. What really hurts me is I thought we were all friends. I’ve invited them to my birthday every year as well as other camping and going out nights. So for me to be excluded makes me never wanna hangout with this person again. My bf kinda snaps and say oh well I just won’t go. But 1 never asked that and 2 I mean you should feel that way hearing that I’m not invited so why are you treating me like oh if I have to I never asked in the first place.

TDLR: my boyfriends friend I’ve known for 2+ year and have invited him and his wife to plenty of “intimate” parties has made it clear I’m not invited to his birthday party and my boyfriend thinks I shouldn’t take it personal