Drums

Hi everyone! I’m an audhd woman who recently took a few drum lessons. I have an issue and I’m wondering if anyone else here has this issue. The names for different drum parts or methods really triggers my PDA. When the teacher said “this is the hi-hat, this is the tom” my first response was “why?” Those are ridiculous names! Just because some rando started calling them those names, I have to use them??? I don’t want to call the different drums those names!!!
My other issue is words for drumming methods like “sticking.” I hate that word. I think I need to just drum on my own at home because there’s no way I can sit and listen to a male teacher tell me which words to use. Has anyone else experienced this? (Also playing the drums is AMAZING for adhd, everyone take a look at Travis Barker’s life story for the details! Fascinating)