(SPOILERS) Sunk in Love frustrating tf out of me

The entire book is a build up towards a major conversation where the FMC gets answers for why the MMC basically abandoned tf out of here after her mom dies. Every chapter has at least three sentences starting with “after my mom died, Liam” continued by xyz ways in which MMC was nothing but horrible at showing up in any meaningful way.

Finally in the last quarter of the book, FMC finally asks why it took the dude so long to talk to her about her mom and what does MMC do? GOES INTO A WHOLE ASS STORY ABOUT HOW HE IS TOO SCARED TO ROCK THE BOAT BECAUSE OF A CHILDHOOD TRAUMA. THAT HE DIDNT THINK SHE WOULD WANT TO SEE THE UGLY BITS. biiiiitccchhhh what???? 1) You basically abandoned tf out of her the moment she got messy and “ugly” because of grief, how do you not see the irony in weaponizing this insecurity?? 2) how does the whole childhood trauma explain (let alone justify) how he abandoned her? If the whole point of that sob story was, i confronted my dad and my family left me, how is that analogous to Ros’s mom dying and you REFUSING to talk to her about it? She BEGGED you to have a convo w her about her mom and you said “i cant talk about stuff like that”

Worst part? The author is so friggin IRRITATING that the entire FMC monologue in response to this shitty revelation is “omg i wish i would take all your hurt away. I thought i needed to know why you abandoned me but looks like you needed this more than I did” so so so annoying. Its 4:30 am where I live and I swear I am so annoyed i could punch a wall. When tf will female authors stop romanticizing shitty behavior from their MMCs?? When will they stop giving them a redemption arc after shitty sloppy confessions??

ANNOYED AS HELLLLL. But also if anyone has a recommendation for second chance romance books where men’s lack of emotional maturity and refusal to deal with their mommy and daddy issues is not used as a justification or a reason to excuse their shitty behavior, pls HMU