what do i do

venting/ranting

i’ve been ranting to chat gpt because my ex is the only person i talk to now i basically have no another friends im really close to but i asked my ai to summarize everything so i can get some advice from reddit

I honestly don’t know what to do anymore.
Me and my ex were together for over a year in a long-distance relationship. The thing is, we never even got to meet in person or FaceTime. She had her phone taken away for basically our entire relationship, so we texted on her laptop and called through Instagram or even Fortnite. We made it work with what we had, and I genuinely loved her with everything I had.
A couple weeks ago she reached out to check on me, and I realized I never actually got over her. We’ve been talking again, and I still love her so much.
She told me she’s still not over me either, but she also told me that as of right now, getting back together with me isn’t in her line of sight. Hearing that already hurt enough.
Then she started telling me about this guy she’s been talking to for months. She says they’re just friends and that he doesn’t like her like that (or that any rejection already happened), but they call almost every night. Meanwhile, I basically have to beg her just to call me, and most of the time she says she’s busy.
The other day she told me she’d been thinking about him all day and that almost everything reminded her of him. She called him a 10/10 when it comes to being funny and even nicknamed him “Mr. Hilarious.” She was worried because he had just gone to a funeral, and when her parents finally let her use the car, she drove to his house just to check on him.
She also told me they almost had phone sex. That really crushed me because that used to be something that felt special between us. We were each other’s first experience with that.
The part that hurts the most is that now she finally has her phone back… but we already broke up.
During our relationship I spent so long hoping for the day she’d get her phone back so we could finally FaceTime whenever we wanted, send each other pictures all the time, and eventually meet in person. Instead, it feels like another guy walked into her life at the exact moment I had been waiting for.
He gets to see her whenever they hang out, call her at night, see as many pictures of her as he wants, and make memories with her in person. Those are literally all the things I dreamed about for over a year but never got to experience.
I know I sound jealous, and honestly I am. I envy him so much. It feels like he’s living the relationship I spent so long hoping I’d eventually have. He started with everything I spent over a year waiting for.
I still love her with all my heart, but at this point I’m already convinced she doesn’t love me the same way anymore, even though she says she’s not over me. I don’t know how to process someone telling me they’re not over me while also telling me all these things about another guy.
Has anyone else gone through something like this? How did you move on when it felt like someone else got the future you thought was going to be yours?

Posted Jun 29, 2026, 11:32 PM UTC

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