I discovered my NEX cheated with both men and women. Has anyone experienced a similar pattern?

I've been trying to make sense of my marriage.

Over time, I discovered that my nex had affairs with both women and men. It didn't seem like he was looking for a particular gender.

There were also several behaviors that always stood out to me:

- In public, his eyes were constantly scanning the room. He rarely focused on the person he was with.

- He wore sunglasses almost all the time, even on cloudy days.

Heavy drinking.

Drug use.

Hypersexuality and serial cheating.

Has anyone else experienced something similar? How did you make sense of it?