my dad's friend is acting really weird

i'm 24f. my dad is in his 70s, and one of his long-time close friends is in his 50s. he's also my dad's personal driver. my mom has never really liked him. for one, he's way too comfortable walking in and out of our house like he lives there. on top of that, he's not exactly the most hygienic person. to put it bluntly, he's an older guy who's messy and has poor hygiene (sorry, heavens 😭).

this year is actually the first time i've stayed home for an extended period since i'm not working yet. i'm a huge introvert, so i rarely socialize and i'd much rather stay indoors than go out. so even though this guy has been friends with my dad for years, we've barely interacted. he only sees me once in a blue moon.

then one day, my parents were invited to a birthday party but couldn't make it due to some personal matters. since i had nothing planned that day, my dad asked if i could attend on behalf of our family. apparently, the host had been reminding them several times to come, and my dad felt bad about not sending anyone. i agreed, and he asked his driver (his friend) to take me there.

nothing felt off during the drive. it wasn't until we got to the party and sat down to eat that i started feeling uncomfortable. at first, i brushed it off. i figured maybe he was just trying to be polite. he pulled out a chair for me, made sure i was taken care of, and all that. he seemed hesitant to start a conversation, so i talked to him first since he's my dad's friend anyway.

the longer we talked, though, the more i noticed the way he kept looking at me. it didn't feel like normal eye contact. something about it just felt... different. i tried not to dwell on it and focused on my food instead.

that uncomfortable feeling wasn't new to me. this isn't even the first time older men have subtly flirted with me. don't get me wrong, i've been approached by younger guys, men my age, and guys a few years older. but out of everyone, men who are old enough to almost be senior citizens are the ones that genuinely creep me out.

fast forward.

out of nowhere, he asked for my facebook and phone number. i hesitated and asked why. he said it was "just in case" he couldn't reach my dad someday, so he could contact me instead. i eventually gave him my number, and he immediately called it right in front of me just to make sure it was real.

after the party, i suggested we head home. we got back around 1:30 p.m., but instead of leaving, he stayed at our house until almost 4 p.m. the whole time, he kept asking if my dad had any other errands for me since he was "more than willing" to drive me anywhere.

that alone made me uncomfortable. my dad was literally home the entire time. if there had been any other errands, my dad would've said so himself. i couldn't understand why he was still hanging around.

i stayed in my room until he finally left.

about an hour later, around 5 p.m., after i had taken a quick shower, i started getting repeated phone calls. i recognized the number immediately—it was the same one he had used earlier to verify mine. i didn't answer.

instead, i asked my dad if he had another errand since his driver kept calling me. my dad looked confused and said no. he was literally holding his phone at that moment, so if the driver actually needed something work-related, why wasn't he calling my dad instead?

the next day, the calls started again.

i ignored every single one.

then things got even weirder. he started sending me "good morning" texts and other oddly affectionate messages that honestly made my skin crawl. i won't share exactly what they said because they made me really uncomfortable.

i really don't like judging people unfairly, but this whole situation just feels... off.

how do some men have this kind of audacity?

am i overthinking this, or does my gut feeling actually make sense? to me, none of this feels normal.

now i'm seriously debating whether i should tell my dad.