Hey everyone,

I genuinely don't know where to post this. I am making this post because I am shaken up and hurt by the severe cyber bullying and targeted harassment I experienced yesterday. I am sharing this because this isn't just about me, it is a widespread issue that countless women face daily in digital spaces. The moment a person shares a nuanced opinion a toxic mob takes over and the default response is almost always aggressive, gendered abuse.

Earlier today on a regional forum, I left a comment for context : I pointed out that we shouldn't use body shaming, fat shaming, colorism or any sort of profanity to hit back at a bully. 

Instead of a normal disagreement a terrifying mob mentality took over. My inbox was flooded with targeted hate. Total strangers used aggressive profanity, hurled disgusting gendered slurs, flooded my DMs, and even stalked my profile to completely 'unrelated' subreddits just to harass me on my new comments. 

The hypocrisy is deeply sickening. 

It is completely fine to disagree or debate. But crossing the line into unsolicited DMs, stalking someone's profile, and sending hate dms are uncalled for. I've disagreed with people on reddit but never used these language.

I am uploading screenshots of just some of the notifications and DMs I received today. Please note that most of the actual comments have already been deleted or removed by Reddit, so I am only able to share the ones still visible from my phone's notification log above and even this is just a small sample of what I faced. Most are paragraphs of hate comments which wouldn't be fully visible in the notification bar as it has been removed. 

I want to also mention the heavy mental toll of this digital harassment. I cried yesterday due to this. My issue is not people disagreeing with a take,it is the vile hate and the bullying women in general face. We need to do better. Stop crossing the line into abuse. Dissent is okay but the abuses were unacalled for.

The pics : 2nd pic is calling me a btch and myr ( which is a gendered slur in Malayalam) and more. 3rd pic is when they started following me into other subs unrelated like indiamemes and commenting profanity. They were also downvoting every single comment in other subs and post i was making to oblivion.

Cyber bullying and harassment women face online