I became a kuya/father figure to a friend

Hello. Uunahan ko na kayong lahat at walang any form of sexual involvement dito.

I became friends with someone dito sa reddit 3 years ago. He was 20 that time. Naging magkaibigan kami kasi click mga trip namin sa buhay, he reminded me of a younger me. Yung mga trip ko sa buhay noon, and I wished I had someone guide me during my younger years. I didnt grow up with my dad.

Sya naman, he had a little troubled household. At times, sinasabi nya sakin na his father has anger issues at minsan pakiramdam nya nakukuha na nya. May mga away sa bahay nila kaya minsan, he just wants to be guided sa decisions nya sa buhay but really cant do that.

We became really close. We would meet for coffee sa mga cafe and discuss about our lives. He would ask me how I handled my schooling dati, nagpapaturo sya ng mga techniques. He would also talk about his girlfriend, and asked me how I handle specific scenarios to make his relationship better. Even valentines came at tinulungan ko sya to build a gift for his gf. He also helped me build mine for my gf that time.

He became really close to me. To the point na gusto ko syang umahon sa hirap at maging successful. Naging provider nya ako. May times na halimbawa magdedate sila ng gf nya, i would treat him sa labas and buy good shit polo o pabango to make him more decent looking. That time wala pa syang areps to do it eh. Pero damn it was a hell of a kuya bond. Minsan bibigyan ko rin sya ng allowance to help cover expenses.

He never asked for money. And at times he would do labor para sakin. Do errands for me kasi nga raw tinutulungan ko sya. He would cook, clean my apartment, hang out with me, and he even would join me sa tournaments ko and support me. I never had such support in my life.

Our friendship ended because of a very fucked up happening. I gave him allowance kasi he was going to do project sa school. But at some point, nahuli ko syang nagcheat sa gf nya by going to a girl's house at nakipagsex. I got mad. Kasi for me, I was building him as a man of culture pero nagpatalo sya sa tawag ng laman.

Nagiyakan kami. Nagsosorry sya na naging mahina sya at ayaw nya raw mawalan ng kuya na tulad ko. Pero sabi ko sa kanya hindi ko na susuportahan yung tulad nya na itatapon yung magagandang bagay sa buhay nya kapalit ng tawag ng laman. Sobra ang pagsisisi nya.

Pero natapos nga ang friendship namin, nangako sya sakin na babaguhin at aayusin nya ang sarili nya kahit wala na ako sa buhay nya.

After years na di na kami naguusap, nagreach out sya sakin para sabihing naging guide nya ako at role model kahit wala na ako sa buhay nya. Sabi nya, naging mabuting kuya sya sa mga kapatid nya tulad ng sabi nya sakin. Naging matino sya. At nagbago sya. Namimiss nya raw yung kuya/father figure nya sakin.

Nakakamiss sya sa totoo lang. Namimiss ko magkaroon ng someone depending on me. Na naggaguide ako. Nagpoprovide ako. Namimiss ko maging kuya/father figure. Iniisip ko nga mag anak na e.

Yun lang guys. Nasan ka man ngayon bro, hope you are blessed. Salamat sa friendship