Am I the nark

Wife and I have been together over thirty years, years of silent treatment and apologizes I never felt like I owed. In the last year or two i believe I figured out she is a covert narcissist, I never knew what that was until recently.

I'm currently sleeping on the couch while she appears heart broken,crying and what not. We had a "talk" today which is a re-run of every talk just telling me how things would be different if I'd just show her the love she needs and treat her the way she needs treated....and today I should seek therapy to figure out what is wrong with me. I actually don't think it's me but am considering talking to someone just to confirm in my mind that I've been abused for 30+ years. Who or what kind of dr would I look for?