AITA I feel like I have no life, I am too concerned about my partner.

I 29 female, have been single for about two years. I have two young children the relationship with their father did not work out. However I met someone online just out of boredom and curiosity and a boost of confidence about 7 months ago and we really hit things off incredibly and been seeing each other consecutively since (weekends spare time/holidays ) He has not made anything official but uses wording as if we are together in a relationship. For me okay.. but this has led me to be more concerned about him and what he’s doing all the time we live in separate cities.i don’t want to push him away buy being overly concerned about his activities and whereabouts as we live far apart. I have no friends or hobbies outside of work and mom life. Just looking for some advice on what I should do I want to be better and let him still live his life but respect the fact he has a “lady” as he says or tells his people.