Am I doing something wrong?

I am loathed to make this post honestly. I know this subreddit is full of PvE players that just want a peaceful raid and I’m one of them. But please help me understand what is going wrong. I’ve seen many posts with people saying it’s not so bad. Maybe 1 in 20 raids they might get ratted. For me it’s 19 in 20 I get ratted. Always silent killers, no one replies to my “don’t shoot man, I’m just looting”.

I’ve tried cross play on and off. I love the game so much but it is unplayable when I’m on a map staying around the outskirts quietly looting low value items and still get ratted.

Why am I always in lobbies with aggressive players. In 60 plus hours topside, I have never shot at or killed another raider.