My stepmom and I found out my dad’s true colors and it might break our family apart.

Throwaway account. I just really don’t know what to do.

If you’re from the south or a red state you might understand what it’s like to have family members who different opinions from you on social or political views. Constantly having to explain that your parents are not a reflection of who YOU are. I’m 25f and I love my parents but I am old enough to not have to explain my own identity. A few days ago I noticed my dad’s fb was gone when I was trying to share a funny video with him and when I asked why he didn’t go into detail why, I assumed maybe his account got hacked. I don’t get on there very much so I hadn’t really seen anything. Every weekday I go by their house to pick up my dog in the evenings bc they keep him while I’m at work and I haven’t seen my dad at their house in a few days, I knew my stepmom was upset with him but didn’t know why. I found out yesterday that he said something extremely racist to someone (not directed AT THEM, but still very racist) in FB messages and the person shared the screenshots publicly. My dad and I don’t discuss topics like that very much but he knows my beliefs, I’m pretty left-leaning, BLM, pro-LGBTQ, human rights, etc. I’ve never heard my dad talk that way or could even imagine him doing so, so I’m extremely shocked and disappointed. I love my dad so much, we’re very close and I look up to him a lot especially because my mom and I are not close (she was abusive). This is a lot for me to process and I don’t know what to do. I don’t even feel like I know him at this point. My stepmom is definitely not someone who would say something like what he did, but she is suffering the consequences of his actions because she was mentioned in the post like “this is ____’s husband? This is unacceptable.” They are both healthcare workers and all this has been reported to his job and possibly hers as well (different companies). My stepmom is also extremely shocked and upset and is talking about moving out. I just don’t know what to do about any of this. I’m embarrassed and heartbroken. Has anyone else been thru something like this before?? I don’t at all condone what my dad did and I think he should have to suffer the consequences but I also can’t imagine losing another parent considering I also have no contact with my mom.