I [25F] asked my LDR partner [23M] for space and now I’m detaching
I have intense period mood swings and I asked him a couple of times to pay me extra attention the week before my period and I never seem satisfied with whatever he gives during that time. Besides that I’m very happy with how he treats me.
So the period before last I got I told him I will not bring it up again and that i will not expect it from him and he said all the right things as usual (he’s a salesman)
After that we agreed that we don’t need to consistently text and have expectations because I told him I think that would help me
He agreed and said he trusts me
We still text even daily just not as regularly considering the time difference
And it did help but it only helped ME, kinda did the opposite to our relationship
I got my period mood swings again (during our “space”) and I got mad at him and he said “I thought we were on the same page that we would be there for each other if really needed”
Which I found unassuming because despite our agreement, I expected he would know that it shouldn’t apply during my PMS days because it should be on his mind) which he then explained he was having a busy day and blah blah
He thinks or is pretending everything is fine because I am obviously texting in a much more detached tone which seems to be oddly making him more attached and lovey with me
Now I am finding myself kind of detached from him where I don’t even share some big news or information that have been happening with me
But he also doesn’t ask which kinda further enforces me detaching
I feel like while he took this space thing at face value and is acting exactly as we agreed upon, I am complicating the space that I literally asked for by analyzing his behaviour as him being detached therefore I must detach as well.
I feel like i subconsciously created this dynamic knowing this is what it would cause or hoping he would “fight harder” by showing up in specific ways that I want that he might not be able to deliver / or are unattainable
I also genuinely love this man so should I address things with him and see if we can reconnect or should I just thug it out til we meet each other in real life again and not overthink this phase?
TLDR: I told my partner for some space to release the pressure from LDR and now I’m detaching from him
Should I try to fix things or just wait til we meet?
Posted Jul 4, 2026, 6:26 PM UTC · locked