i’m sad. how to deal with our friend from now on?

my bf (m27) and me (f28) do have a „big problem“ with a friend of us at the moment.

a few days ago because i‘ve felt mentally really unwell so I left all of my snapshat groups and so on just to get some time away and my bf is mentally not feeling to well at the moment either because of his job.
we told our friend that atm due to my bfs condition he doesn‘t want to pick someone up or anything that sort of (i also said my bf feels kinda used by everyone atm not explicit a person). it was not personal or anything to attack the our friend just a general information because we both are not in a good spot. I even explained that he wouldn‘t even pick up his own brothers atm and is not even in the mood sometimes to pick me up.

yesterday was a total mess with our friend. he sounded lowkey pissed and it seemed like he felt personally attacked. he said we acted weird since a certain voice message was send by him (it was about him wanting to sleep but everyone would annoy him. like sorry i didn‘t knew).
i‘ve admitted i was a bit sad because of it and how he sounded in that voice message but that it would have nothing to do with anything else going on at the moment nor my bf not wanting to pick him or anyone up, that its truly only about us feeling mentally unwell and i think i‘ve said this serval times…and we called for over one hour…

now for today. our friend hit me up to hang and once again he rolled up with that topic after me mentioning i‘d have no one to drive. it wasn‘t ok of me not to mention that it was about only me and not him included but the way he send super pissed voice messages of how he will never ever again drive with my bf in his car or ask him really hurted me.
i though that after we talked about it yesterday it would be all good. it‘s ok as well if he doesn‘t want to anymore but the way he said it really hurted me which also led me to tell him that it was not ok how he said that and that it really hurt me.

personally, i think that he could just have said nothing instead of being so rude? like you made your point clear a day ago and i got that? but at the same time i thought everything would be good and we would have solved that, which is why it shocked me so much today.

his behaviour really seems so childish to me..like a teenager in his rebellious phase? and it annoys the hell out of me.

i know this maybe sounds weird coming from an adult and we maybe could ignore it and be like „whatever“ but may someone has some advice for how to deal with such things better or maybe someone has experienced the same?