Friend makes me feel guilty about my interests?

Support Needed (Kind Advice and Commiseration)

Hi! I'm really not certain of where I stand here, please bear with me.

I've noticed that lately over the last year or so whenever a new interest arises, my friend always expresses their discomfort/grievance with it. This doesn't bother me, I'm saddened I can't share things I enjoy with them but otherwise it's not much of an issue. I often do find it one sided, that she is allowed to share her interests at length but I am not.

I can't fail to acknowledge that it does often leave me feeling as though I am walking on egg shells around her for fear of sparking a reaction.

For context: the interests themselves are always quite innocuous but I can sympathise with them being possibly a bit annoying to hear about it it's not something you're interested in. In the past I've definitely been a bit full throttle at times, but I have learned to harness it significantly better than I could two years ago. Friend is also autistic.

We have spoken about this and I have made the effort to not discuss interests around them

On the rare occasion I have shared a story that is related to something about them that shares coincidental association, she will make me feel awful about sharing it and it will leave me feeling incredibly conflicted. Is this deserved? Am I unintentionally pushing boundaries? That's really the only conclusion I can come around to.

Posted Jul 5, 2026, 12:19 PM UTC

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