Double cut pork chop with white bean cassoulet. 

Was just sitting here listening to March 22, 1990 (\~);} GDF NFA and Feel Like a Stranger came on. And I realized, as I sat in my new home post divorce, with both daughters still sleeping, that I do not feel like a stranger in my own home. For the first time in a very long time. 

I suspected she was cheating in 2021. Emails in 2022 with an old “colleague” confirmed there was at least emotional cheating going on. In 2023 she introduced me to the neighbor she “met while walking the dogs”. In late 2024, I came home unannounced to find them in our backyard hanging out. She stopped sleeping in bed shortly after. Summer 2025 we came home from an international trip and as I leaned over to kiss her and say “welcome home babe!” she was texting our neighbor. He was 28 years old when they met. Our oldest is only 6.5 years younger. And jerked the phone away so violently that she jolted the woman next to her awake. That’s when I came home and really looked. Verizon records, Ring camera footage, Apple downloads, the whole 9. Even found an empty condom wrapper in our bedside lingerie drawer. Wrapped up in lingerie I never seen her in. She blamed that on our teen son. My heart was shattered by what I had already known for a very very long time at that point. 

The truth once I looked…three weeks prior to her introducing him to me, they actually met on dating website. She downloaded swinger sites just 6 weeks after inverting our life savings on our dream. They had been communicating and sexting for years. Then started hanging out while I was out of town. Then I caught them. Then I looked and pieced it all together. 

I wanted to write this after being a new member for sometime. This is my second marriage. Both ended because of lies and infidelity. If you’re thinking she’s cheating, she probably is. If she is accusing you of cheating (a daily occurrence here for me in both marriages) she DEFINITELY is. We project what we hide. This is a categorical imperative in life. In all cases. 

I had to heal what cut me before I could show up as a whole person for someone else. Many seem to miss this part. 

Good luck 🤙🏼

Never Feel Like a Stranger In Your Own Home