Questioning if I’m demisexual. I’m looking for perspective

I’ve been trying to figure out where I fall, and demisexuality is the closest thing I’ve found, but I want to hear from people who relate before I settle on it.

Growing up, I was curious about sex, genuinely curious, not repulsed by the idea. But the couple times I actually experienced it, it felt more like a chore than anything enjoyable or fulfilling. Not painful, not traumatic, just… flat. Something I did rather than wanted.

I’ve never really sought out partners on my own, maybe a couple times, but nothing consistent. I love romance in books and movies, the whole falling-in-love arc, but I’ve never experienced anything like that myself. I’ve never had a crush past middle school, never fallen in love.

What confuses me is I do want physical closeness in other forms, cuddling, flirting, kissing on the cheek. I want to find a partner attractive and have them find me attractive too. It’s specifically sex itself that falls flat, not physical intimacy in general.